LBTQ as a reoccuring, controversial topic

I help administrate a larger Discord community. As a part of our community guidelines, it have said for a long time "not to steer drama".

Last year I made our Discord server icon have the rainbow flag background colors during pride week which, which ended doing just that: stir up a lot of drama.

At the same time... our community guidelines also state that anyone of any ethnicity or background is welcome. Which in this case appears to be clashing a bit with "not steering up drama" if the mere mention of LGBTQ equates to creating drama.

Some examples of discussion taking place months after this rainbow logo was removed (which I had on for 7 days in the start of June last year): https://imgur.com/a/smfcEJy

By allowing talk regarding LGBTQ, it seems I upset some people. Disallowing it doesn't appear to cause any trouble (that is, no one openly complains), but then its worth asking, do we really allow LGBTQ to be here? Edit: Also, because it seems to cause such endless trouble, Im starting to think it may also be the best option also to protect LGBTQ people. Because it appears this topic cannot be brought up without someone being attacked, or some kind of drama arising from it, someone feeling hurt.

Today I added "... avoid controversial discussion surrounding politics, religion or any other sensitive topics." to our guidelines. Moderators would then treat any LGBTQ related discussion as a "sensitive topic" (falls under politics), which means they would have free hands to remove any such content. But I'm also not 100% sure this is the right way to go.

Would love some external thoughts on this. How do other communities handle this?

The community is tech related. Server is used both for community provided tech support & being a space for people with similar interests to socialize.